Good evening everyone, I really appreciate ROTDOW Children and Care Support Team for this opportunity to share with you Ancient and Modern parenting. I also thank the stakeholders on the platform for believing in us.
Ethics and values

The present generation of children are void of proper “Ethics and moral values “ while the older generation were brought  up with quality  “Ethics and moral values” children today are scarcely respectful because ethics were not passed unto them. In anyway, you can only give what you have ; so the children are not to be blamed because they were never equipped with such ethics and morals.

It will therefore be absurd and unfair to hold responsible for such lapses. Interestingly, it was never like this in the past when children were consciously equipped with quality ethics and morals.  For example in the past when you call your child three times or you wink your eyes  you are giving serious warning.

Love
This days, love has become selfish. The older generation both lived and died love. Nobody wants to pay sacrifices for their families, communities and nation at large just like our heroes did in the past and got results. Even in our prayer life love is missing instead of praying to better and changing the life of children  ninety percent of prayer centered on enemies.

Culture

• From art to music, cultural beliefs and customs, our generation has changed rapidly. Our age and time has been eroded of various cultures that were huge benefit to everyone. In the past music teaches morals unfortunately most of the young artists sing under the influence of hard drugs and alcohol .
• Furthermore, this culture attracted tourist from various nations which by extension contributed immensely to the economic growth of our nation at large.

Technology

• Technology has evidently changed our society (both positively and negatively). As day goes by, science and technology is being advanced and used to creates various machines from vehicles, weapons, mobile phones, computer and several others.
• Furthermore, young one today now rely on the interest and media for answers to sensitive and largely misled. Unlike those days when the aged were consulted for answers to critical life’s questions.

Hence, the decadence when compare to the good caused by this development has created so huge a vacuum in the child rearing spectrum.

Fashion

• From dressing style to hairstyle and shoes, we have seen both men and women’s mode of dressing in the new generation varying as diverse clothes and outfits being introduced into our society.
• Unfortunately, parent have followed the trend of half- naked or even nude dressing. Parent today hardly have control over what their wards wear around. Unlike those days when parent were totally in control whether they were present or absent.

Life and discipline

• The baby boomers lifestyles was quite difficult because as a way of discipline, the children wew whipped and given punishments, their parents. For any mistake made, there were consequences and this made children more vigilant and careful.
• Today, our parents have become more relaxed with disciplining their children and that has led to children rebellious and having troubles following some simple rules and regulations given them by their parents.

What do children need from parents?
Children need to receive messages from their parents that they are lovable, capable and special in positive ways. They need to know that their parents are available when they need help and support and are eager to be present to witness their accomplishments, they also need parents to provide and atmosphere that is mentally and physically  challenging and stimulating.

How can I improves as a parents?
Learning how to be parent is an ongoing process. When in doubt about your parenting, talk to other parents, attend parenting classes, and gather information from books, magazines, television and radio. If you still have major concerns, consult with a professional who specializes in working with parents and children.

BASIC OF GOOD PARENTING

• Be as consistent as possible
• Listen to your children so they know they say is important
• Let your children know they are loved, even when their behavior is out of line.
• Acknowledge the behaviors children display that are important to you
• When you and your children need to compromises, remember that parents always make the final decisions.

TIPS OF PARENTING

• Be a Role Model
• Communicate
• Delegate responsibility
• Discipline with love
• Encourage social skills
• Love unconditionally
• Make your home safe
• Show affection
• Spend time together.

Ways to handle the stress of parenting

• Take time out (every day if possible) to do something just for yourself.
• Keep your relating with your spouse strong, you need each other’s support. If you don’t have a spouse, build a support system of friends and relatives.
• Experience the joys of seeing your children grow and develop.
• Remember that children will make mistakes, be inconsistent, act selfishly, and be thoughtless.
• If you feel overwhelmed, arrange for help to relieve you of some of your responsibilities so you can focus more on caring for your children.
• Accept the fact that parenting often involves putting the fulfillment of your own needs and desires on hold.
• Let yourself laugh when things you try don’t go exactly as planned.
• Change your routine whenever possible.
• Spend time with friends. Share your concerns about parenting with them.
• Let the child in you come out and play with your children.

IN CONCLUSION

Your children learn more from watching how you deal with situations than what you tell them. Speak to your children in a simple, direct, genuine manner. Listen carefully in order to understand your children’s thoughts and feelings. As your children get older, have them gradually take one or more responsibility for household jobs. Make sure that the jobs that you delegate can be successfully completed by your children. Always focus on the behavior, not the person. Judgment is never a good option.

Use real life opportunities to teach your children acceptable ways of interacting with others. Acknowledges the use of these skills when you observe your children or others using them. Look for opportunities to show your children in a variety of ways that you love them

This should include to set aside special time for them, looking at them lovingly, hugging them spontaneously, and telling them that they are wonderful, terrific, special. Love them all the time, not only when they do something that pleases you. Make your home safe psychologically as well as free from physical hazards. Avoid angry reactions. Hugs, kisses, tender touches and “I love you” go a long way toward building good feeling in your children about you and themselves. Do not hesitate to express warm and loving feelings. There is no substitute for spending time with your children.it sends the message that your children are important enough to you.

Try to establish a routine so you can be available to your children at the same time each day. Let me live you with this piece.

Once again I appreciate you all for taking time to attend the webinar. Thank you and God bless you

Facilitated by Mrs. Olabisi Omolona, the CEO of Restoration of the Dignity of Womanhood (ROTDOW).